PETALING JAYA – A teenager who found herself pregnant at 17 shared that she wished her parents had been more open with her and taken their time to talk about pre-marital sex.
â€œEvery time I hinted about things relating to sex, my mother would look at me like I have sinned,â€ said the girl known as Ana, 19.
Recalling her first meeting with her 27-year-old boyfriend who was a lorry driver, Ana said they met when she was 16 at a restaurant near her school.
â€œI never noticed him until one day the waiter told me that someone had already paid for my meal. That was when everything started.
â€œHe smiled at me and I went over to thank him and we started talking. I did not think anything was wrong with making friends until we were alone in the car one day and he slipped his hands up my pinafore,â€ she said.
She was caught off-guard.
Ana, who is from a small town in Johor, said: â€œI honestly did not know if it was wrong but I knew that it made me feel uncomfortable.
That evening, when I was watching a movie with my mum, I tried asking her about it by relating it to a movie, but she shut me off by saying I was being inappropriate.
â€œConfused by the whole situation, I continued to entertain the text messages from my boyfriend who comforted me by saying that he would never hurt me and that he loved me very much. I believed him,â€ she said.
Things â€œjust happenedâ€ then, she said, adding that it was initially painful, but it changed after that.
â€œHe always reassured me that he was never going to leave me. I was happy, until one day my classmates and I were talking about menstruation and I realised I was four weeks late.
â€œThe thought of it scared me and I immediately contacted my boyfriend. He did not reply and had been unreachable since then,â€ she said.
Ana eventually told her mother but confessed that she did not entirely understand the seriousness of the situation.
â€œMy mum was furious and she hit me but she agreed to help me out. We met a friend of hers who helped with the abortion.
â€œAll I can say now is that a teenager should never have to go through what I went through. They should not be left in the dark the way as I was,â€ she said. – The Star Online