The term â€œwears the pantsâ€ refers to a dominant, powerful and decision-making individual. Of course the term originates with men, when historically men wore pants, and women were always in dresses or skirts. Since these times, women have gained confidence, independence and financial security apart from their male counterparts. In this case, the woman can become the reigning partner in a relationship and therefore â€œwear the pants.â€ So are you wearing the pants in your relationship? Take a look at these seven signs that you might be forfeiting your dainty dress, and slipping into a pair of pants.
1. Heâ€™s quick to apologize
When you and your man get in a fight, does he always crumble under stress and apologize first. If thatâ€™s the case, then look for a belt because you are definitely wearing the pants in the relationship. Every one knows that typically women are the emotional beings and are more likely to try to smooth things over, compared to men. But if your guy over compensates after a fight and apologizes his eyes out, then heâ€™s likely the weaker link in your bond. That, or heâ€™s cheating and is struggling with a guilty conscience!
2. He dropped the ‘L’-Bomb first
Who said, â€œI love youâ€ first? If your man dropped it on you, before it had even entered your radar, then chances are he is the emotional one between the two of you. Showing vulnerability and transparency is a hard task to do, especially for men. This should not be taken as a bad thing, however; but does reflect how in touch your man is with his feelings, which could come up in other areas of your relationship.
3. Your friends are now his friends
If your man has become a part of your existing social group, then he is most likely leaching on to you because you tend to be the dominant presence in the relationship. A man who is willing to boycott all friendships and insert himself into your group shows that he is flexible to rearrange his life for you and is willing to take on you, your friends, your likes and your interests. Be cautious that he doesnâ€™t transform into a stage five clinger and loses his identity all together. Itâ€™s nice to have your man hang around with you and your friends, but itâ€™s quite another thing if he is always with you.
4. You make more money than he does
Money makes the world go round, a sad but true fact. In relationships itâ€™s often the decision-maker and prominent partner that earns more money in the workplace. Obviously women are typically underpaid in most careers, making it more likely that your manâ€™s check is bigger than yours. However, if you are the career driven, go-getter type, then your man might not be at your level. It takes a secure (and smart!) man to give his partner the reigns when it comes to earning more money. If you are the one dishing out dough for weekend getaways and dinners on the town, then you are very well in control.
5. You’re the decision-maker
Whether itâ€™s figuring out what movie to watch or what restaurant to eat at, if you are typically the decision maker, you are probably also wearing the pants in the relationship. Itâ€™s polite for a man to ask his date where she wants to eat, or what she wants to do, but if you are always having to plan the day and figure out the movie time for what you want to see, then you might be leading the relationship. And thatâ€™s okay.
6. He asks for permission
If your man constantly confides in you about where he should go to meet up with buddies, or what he should do with a free afternoon, you might be wearing the pants more often than you think. Men are typically independent and confident in making their own decisions. When this power is passed to you, it indicates that your man actually values your opinion more than his, and needs you to help him. Itâ€™s a vulnerable move to ask for help or suggestions, and most men are very opposed to it.
If you are open to dictating his life and explaining his every move to him, then go for it! But if this kind of behavior grows tiresome and you want an independent dude, try to build up his confidence and approve any ideas he comes up with on his own. It might be time to ween your man off of you and watch him fly on his own .MYNEWSHUB/Text: Sara Khalid